Who are the people you associate with at work? Are they friends outside of work as well as at work? Do they motivate you, challenge you, inspire you to be the best? Or, are you spending time with the opposite type of person: the person who does the bare minimum, thinks the company owes you a job, and is generally not the “star” employee?
Depending on who you’re with, it can make or break your day, and if you are happy at work, it makes everything better!
Here are some simple, yet very telling questions, you can answer for yourself: do you like the people you hang around with at work? Do you even like the people you work with? We spend so much time with them, we didn’t get to pick them, and they have an amazing impact on our lives—whether you want them to or not.
You might be thinking that you don’t have a whole lot of control over the people you’re sharing an office with. But consider this, just because you “office” with them, doesn’t mean that you have to hang around with them during lunch and on breaks.
There has been a lot of talk over the years about the “Laws of the Universe.” You might remember the book The Secret that received a lot of praise and press a few years ago. At the beginning of each year, there typically is a lot of focus in books and talk shows about these laws. Some of these laws are: The Law of Clarity of Mission, The Law of Give-and-Take, The Law of Expectation, and The Law of Attraction (which is the subject of the book The Secret.)
What can we learn from the Law of Attraction?
If like attracts like, then I am surrounded by people who are like me. You’ve heard the expression, “if you want to fly like an eagle, stay away from turkeys.” Essentially, it means that we tend to hang around people who are like us. To get some insight into ourselves, we can look at who we are attracting—those people we like to spend time with and those who like to spend time with us.
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If we find ourselves constantly surrounded by negative people, perhaps we are exuding a bit more negativity than we realize. One of the ways to keep negativity away is to continually turn it around and make it positive. The negative person does not want to hear the positive. She is comfortable with the negative; it is what she gives and what she wants back. Many of us believe that the negative person is dealt with effectively if we listen and don’t give her any feedback. What we often don’t realize is that no feedback is just the same as enabling feedback.
If your child said to you, “tomorrow I am not going to school,” and you ignored the comment, your child might assume he had your implicit permission not to go to school.
If your negative person gives you negativity and you choose to say nothing, you may be implying that you agree, or at the very least, are not disagreeing with what she says. If like attracts like, then we may be attracting negativity by not being positive.
Another way The Law of Attraction works in our lives is in how much we like our jobs. If we love what we do and consider it a privilege to get paid to do what we do, then we typically will spend time at work with people who also like their job. We tend not to spend time with people who hate what they are doing because it is very draining to us emotionally.
If you are spending time with people who hate their job, you will re-evaluate what you love, listen (almost in spite of yourself) to what your co-workers are saying, and may even feel that some of their comments are justified. Just by being surrounded by constant job dissatisfaction, you will automatically start to question your job satisfaction.
Like ATTRACTS Like
It seems that some people get all the breaks in life. They are in the right place at the right time. They get to meet all the right people. They get all the promotions, and they seem to get all the glory. Is it that these people are just lucky? Or could they be attracting what they exude?
Perhaps you need to have a look at what and who you attract. Are you attracting people just like you? Are you happy with it? If not, change what you are sending, and you will change what you receive.
If you think about it, the way we present ourselves has a lot to do with how we’re perceived. I know I touched on hard subjects to confront, but remember, just because its common practice does not mean its common sense. One of my mom’s favorite sayings to me when I was a teenager was, “if all your friends jumped off a cliff, would you jump off one too?”
No, of course, I wouldn’t. Make sure you are not jumping off the proverbial cliff at work, either.